Student-to-Student Sexual Harassment

"There is a guy in all my classes who consistently touches me in a sexual way that I really don't appreciate. — Female, 2nd year

"Just at a party where someone tried to get me to kiss them and I didn't want to but was forced to." — Male, 1st year

"Phone harassment calling me derogatory homosexual names [and] leaving messages." — Male, 4th year

"A lewd joke about rape directed to me during a soccer game." — Female, 2nd year

"A girl kept trying to show off her breasts to get my attention." — Male, 3rd year

"Joking around with other guys calling each other gay." — Male, 3rd year

"Someone tried to force me to kiss them and pushed me into a room." — Female, 4th year

"I got mooned and made fun of." — Male, 1st year

"Another student forced me to do things I did not want to do." — Female, 4th year

"People who lived in the same hall as me in the dorms started spreading rumors about my sex life, which were not even close to true. They also spread condoms around my room." — Female 3rd year

"Just a female grabbing me in a sexual way." — Male, 4th year

"Being sent unwanted pornographic images through e-mail." — Male, 4th year

"Getting whistled [at] and/or had sexual related comments made to me outdoors on campus grounds." — Female, 2nd year

Sexual Harassment Made Me Feel ...

"Upset and embarrassed." — Female, 2nd year

"Belittled, alone, uncomfortable." — Female, 5th year

"Slightly uncomfortable, but not threatened." — Male, 3rd year

"Self conscious, pissed off, and concerned, in that order." — Female, 3rd year

"They happen so often that I've become very immune to them. I get more annoyed by it than anything." — Male, 2nd year

"Annoyed but they don't seem to be something to take seriously." — Male, 1st year

"It makes me feel like I have no control over my life." — Female, 4th year

"Annoyed, frustrated, embarrassed, violated." — Male, 4th year

"Angry, self conscious, ashamed." — Female, 3rd year

"They make me feel disgusted." — Male, 2nd year

"It was funny at first, but then they kept doing it." — Male, 4th year

"I don't really like them but I don't feel threatened or anything." — Female, 4th year

"I begin to question my morals and what I stand for." — Female, 1st year

"It has made me feel threatened. It has made me afraid of being raped." — Female, 3rd year

"In general [it] makes you feel embarrassed and hurt." — Male, no year given

"They made me feel pretty cheap … like a piece of meat but I guess you expect behavior like this at college." — Female, 2nd year

"It makes me feel horrible. It makes me feel like a second-class citizen." — Female, 2nd year

"Hurt and sad." — Female, 1st year

"Bad at first but you learn to laugh it off." — Male, 5th year

Sexual Harassment Affects My Education Because ...

"It makes me feel very uncomfortable and it affects my willingness to accept the advice or lectures offered by professors." — Female, 4th year

"Uncomfortable, did not want to be in class." — Female, no year given

"They distract from the working environment and make it harder to concentrate because you become paranoid." — Male, no year given

"In school if you let things get to you, you aren't able to perform. Best thing is to just shake it off and keep going." — Male, no year given

"I felt violated and could not focus on my classes. I also felt limited in where I could go on campus." — Female, 4th year

"Embarrassed and slightly uncomfortable going to that class." — Male, 4th year

I Didn't Tell Anyone About Sexual Harassment Because ...

"Didn't know who to tell or how to say it." — Female, 4th year

"It wasn't a big deal." — Male, 2nd year

"There's no one to tell. Besides if I decided to tell someone other than a fellow student it would probably be questioned or ignored." — Female, 4th year

"I've had bad sexual experiences in the past that make me more likely to not want to tell anyone." — Female, 3rd year

"I guess [I was] scared or felt it wouldn't be taken seriously." — Female, 1st year

"Felt I was probably being paranoid. It was rare and infrequent occurrences and never escalated to anything even moderate, so I just brush it off and try to forget about it." — Female, 2nd year

"I was embarrassed." — Female, 2nd Year

"Not that big of a deal. I could take care of it myself." — Female, 5th year

"Thought it best to handle the situation on my own." — Male, 5th year

"It wasn't serious enough to report." — Male, 4th year

"It wasn't that big a deal and I didn't want anyone to get in trouble or to make myself look childish." — Female, 3rd year

"I didn't think it was serious; just another part of the daily grind." — Male, 2nd year

"It didn't seem like a big enough deal and I wasn't confident anything could/would be done about it." — Female, 2nd year

"It was annoying, creepy, unwanted and uncomfortable, but not threatening enough to complain." — Female, 5th year

When I Told Someone About Sexual Harassment, They Said ...

"It was wrong." — Female, 4th year

"Stay away from the abuser." — Female, 4th year

"Just be cool and deal with it." — Male, 5th year

"They would look into it." — Female, 4th year

"Helped me out and gave me advice on what to do in that situation." — Female, 4th year

"They talked to the individual and made the person stop." — Female, 2nd year

"She told me that you must report these instances to the campus police, but I was scared to." — Female, 5th year

"Confront the person and ask them never to do it again." — Male, 3rd year

"I spoke to a therapist and from there I was able to start coping with the situation." — Female, 3rd year

"They offered consolation and discussed the situation with me a bit." — Male, 5th year

"It was all in good fun. I even knew that. We just laughed." — Male, 1st year

"They validated my feelings and told me that whatever choice I made they would support it." — Female, 5th year

"That I should report it." — Female, 3rd year

"That it was a serious matter and they would handle the situation. They advised me to stay away from the offending persons." — Female, 4th year

"One said stay away from him — cut off all contact. Others didn't offer any suggestions just sympathy." — Female, 2nd year

"Friends and family urged me to tell a campus police officer. The campus police officer contacted the offending employee's supervisor." — Female, 3rd year

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